Expectations are by definition the anticipation of something happening. When we anticipate an event and how it might look, we not only loose the moment we are in, but we also set ourselves up for disappointment. How is that you might wonder? Well, we get lost in a dream of how a certain moment might look, our soul mate, our children, where we might live and then when these things come to us we either miss them, or are disappointed when they are not what we had anticipated. When I first heard this logic about not having expectations, I felt slightly unsettled. It has only been through life’s lessons that I have come to realize how accurate this concept is and when applied to life how much joy materializes!
Of course, there are givens in life like when conducting business and paying for a product one expects to receive said product. However, expectations are things we most often times attach to the people in our lives. What if we accepted all peoples just as they stood, and honored them with no judgment? It takes away the notion of expectations and allows for us to open our hearts to love, universal love. This does not mean accepting people’s bad behavior, we need to be honest when certain types of behavior are unacceptable, and then release that emotion. Don’t expect anything from people, but do not dishonor yourself by staying with someone who doesn’t honor you. When we can let go of expectations, we can live life more clearly and in harmony with our true spirit. The more you hold onto expectations, the more they crack and you are left to feel utterly disappointed. Do not set yourself up for disappointment, as only you hold the power to change things. The ability to change our lives I know only to well, as most of us do, and the lessons can be tough, almost brutal in some cases. Today take a step and try to hold no one or anything up to any expectations and you might be very surprised by how rewarding life can be.
Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.
~ Alexander Pope
Don’t wish me happiness. I don’t expect to be happy all the time . . . It’s gotten beyond that somehow. Wish me courage and strength and a sense of humor. I will need them all.
~Anne Morrow Lindbergh