Shine Your Star

How do you let go of the grief and pain of an experience?  First, I really don’t believe you let go of grief in the sense that when you have lost someone you have loved dearly you never forget him or her or your life together.  However, you can choose to release some of the pain and live a full life.  There is no need to be a victim all of your life, living with the why me of it all and playing small.  You can learn to sit with the feelings of grief, and those change as time passes so be aware of the shift.  How can you see where these shifts have occurred?  Journaling is a powerful tool for your toolbox.  When you write, you are releasing feelings, thoughts and emotions.  More importantly, no one can ever judge you for those feelings, thoughts or emotions.    A wise woman once said ‘your journal is your best friend at the end of your pen’ and I believe that to be true. 

Whatever you resist persists.  In order to heal our soul we must do the opposite, we must accept, open up, release our feelings, and let them go.   To face reality as it is, which is much easier to do with love in our hearts rather than negative interpretations, we must open our hearts.  The way out is the way through.  One approach to opening up our heart and working through some of our grief is via the avenue of journaling.  Did you know that scientific research based on the work of Dr. James Pennebaker shows that brief, intense bursts of emotional release writing, just 15 minutes a day for 4 consecutive days, correlated with increased immune system functioning that can last for several weeks?  Since grief often compromises the immune system and leaves you more vulnerable to colds, flu and infection, these writes can help your physical as well as emotional health. When stuck we often try to think our way out, but what if we tried to write our way out?

Grief is a process that will persist in some manner, but it doesn’t have to own your soul completely.  You are still very much alive on this planet and have work to do; you did not come to sit in sorrow for eternity.  You may feel like this is the case some days, but if you implement some soul searching you will find that there await gifts inside which you were meant to bring forth.  Look inside today and see where you might have formed some type of attachment to your grief.  Attachment is part of the ordinariness of the human condition as the mind and emotions are inclined to do this with whatever is your involvement and focus. You can assist yourself by focusing on your gratitude instead of your attachment, and journal about gratitude.  You can create a gratitude journal by writing down the things you are grateful for each day, making sure to date every entry.  After a week or more has passed, look back at what you have written and let your heart be full.  It is important to be patient with yourself as you heal, and always ask for help from your circle of friends, spiritually, or professionally.  This is a part of your life path, but it does not have to defeat you to the point where you are not shining your own star brightly. 


No one can create negativity or stress within you. Only you can do that by virtue of how you process your world.

~Wayne Dyer

About Wildflower Women

Welcome to my site. I am writing to give people inspiration to hold their voices, especially as concerns the grieving process. My hope is that everyone finds a little inspiration from my site. We are all a work in progress! Namaste.
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5 Responses to Shine Your Star

  1. Does it count if you convince your doctor to do the writing for you? 🙂


  2. kmoore20 says:

    Would like to use this post as an opening to a Labyrinth retreat that I will be doing for folks who have been coming to me for grief counseling-what are your thoughts? I so leapt out to me when reading this that it may be a powerful reflection tool.


  3. I would be most flattered if you used it at your retreat!


  4. FeatherMoon says:

    Memories are too deep to forget and there are many lessons I’ve learned along the way. With this, there will be tears for healing and memories I will always cherish in happiness. Great write…


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