Where do you see yourself and how do you see yourself living without your life partner? After grief has settled in and you have gone through the initial grieving process, you might wake up one day and ask yourself these questions. You might ask other people these questions as well? What will be important here is not to allow limiting beliefs from others or yourself to set the stage for this new chapter in your life. You might think about setting goals, and that is all fine and wonderful. However, keep in mind that your desire has a certain amount of energy as does your inner resistance and inner stories about why you can’t/shouldn’t have or don’t deserve to have something. If the energy of resistance is greater than the energy of desire, your goal won’t happen. It is that simple. You must have faith, inner resistance, tenacity and persistence that you will reach your goals.
We often have an inner story that is stronger than our inner desire. The power of that story (no matter how real it may seem) can be strong enough to hold us back. When we hold ourselves back we produce the result of the limiting story, which then backs it up. Goal setting starts with beginning to tell a new story about what’s possible for you and why it’s possible. To do this you need to surround yourself with people who will support that new story. We get side tracked in life by many people who squash our dreams, but in reality it’s not them crushing our dreams, it’s us because we accept their opinion and assessment of the situation, instead of making our own opinion and self-approval of what matters most.
When we have lost someone we love, we all to often tell ourselves a limiting story as to our lives. Question whether or not the person who left your life would want you to live a limited life? I cannot imagine anyone who loved you would want you to live less than your best life. What are the limiting stories you are telling yourself? What new story do you want to tell? Stretch beyond your limits and live your best life and see what joy and happiness can be present when you decide to live there instead of in your limiting beliefs.
Each morning we are born again. What we do today is what matters most.