It is Father’s Day once again, and in homage to my own father whom I had the good fortune to recently visit with my 21-year-old son in tow, I want to take this time to write something about this ‘holiday’ which may in fact be more Hallmark than anything. Nevertheless, it is a recognized holiday and one that is difficult for many children who do not have a father to honor. I wrote something last year, and my heart is again being called to honor my son who does not have a father.
Son, you are so brave and strong and I admire you for those qualities. While you can be tough on those around you, you are always seeking balance and easily see the middle way. Your ability to apologize for your missteps is beyond a gift and my hope is that you recognize how truly exceptional you are for being able to step up to the plate and ask for forgiveness. From the day you stood up at your father’s memorial service to deliver a magnificent eulogy at the age of 12 to your most recent travels abroad which included taking care of yourself in an emergency situation that required surgery, you are truly a trail blazer. Your father would be so proud of you, and you have a lot of his leadership abilities in your soul.
Your beautiful soul is so full, so sensitive, passionate, and receptive to all that it encounters. Thank you for choosing me as your mother, for blessing my life. While we certainly don’t always traverse an easy road with one another in our discussions, you are and always have been from the moment you were born at the forefront of my life. No regrets that is my motto, and my wish for you is that it be your motto as well. We approach things from different perspectives, but we are forever linked. You are well aware that people have described your gifts ranging from those of an Indigo Child, a leader and more and I firmly believe this of you my son.
While you do not have an Earthly father, you have the universe and the divine with you and in you always. It is also my belief that your father watches over you and keeps you safe. As one of your favorite childhood author’s said (Mark Twain), “Life is short, break the rules, forgive quickly, kiss slowly, love truly, laugh uncontrollably, and never regret anything that made you smile. Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
Happy Father’s Day to you my dear son, and to all the fatherless children with a wish that they are equally as blessed with love and of course they are, for the divine exists in all of us, it is just a matter of belief.