Acceptance of all parts of self is how we begin to heal. We can cut the ropes that tie us to the opinions of others if we are first willing to stop our own judgments of how things should be, how people should act, what others should wear, and what is sensible. In order to do this you must first sever your limiting beliefs and examine your own convictions, most of which were formed when you were very young. One avenue of proceeding is to get paper and pen and journal (one of my favorite healing tools) about things that were ‘should not’s or ‘never do’ in your experience as you were growing up. Make a list, journal about these things. Once you have completed this, look at areas where some of these unspoken rules are limiting your self-expression and potential. After identifying the limiting effect of these ‘old ideas’, you may choose instead to journal about new decisions regarding these limiting beliefs and make a list of positive ways to express yourself, leaving the old guilt’s and fears behind. As you make this new list, you will journey further into your serious issues and you may, if you so choose, cut the cord of fear of self-expression. There is no failure in those who have the courage to express themselves. The only failure is in refusing to take the chance. When you come fully into your self and accept all parts of yourself, you will assist the whole of Creation. Do this with truth, grace and love in your heart for the whole of yourself and the universe.
We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present. ~ Marianne Williamson