As we approach the Thanksgiving holiday next week in the United States, it can bring up many feelings and emotions. Many of us have lost people we love to the hands of death; we might even be alone for this holiday. It is easy to get lost in the commercialism of it all and think that we might stand in lack because we do not have that perfect Norman Rockwell family. One of my favorite holiday movies is Home for the Holidays with Holly Hunter and Richard Downey, Jr. because it portrays the reality of most families and life, which is to say families are not perfect. If you have lost someone, a parent, a child, a mate, a friend this is a wonderful occasion to remember them. Say their name at the table. If you do a blessing of your food then you might remember them at that time. You could even place a photo of them at the table, a different photo of them at each seat as a place marker and have each person share a story about that person. If you are inviting someone to your home to share dinner and they have lost someone dear, invite them to share or please mention the loved ones name. Whatever you do, please do not pretend that this person no longer exists because they are not living on this Earth. They did exist, they are a part of you or your friend, and they do live in your heart still and forever. Take a moment to honor them for your own healing for they are not dead who live in the hearts of those they leave behind. Take the opportunity this holiday season to heal your heart instead of seeing it as a time of loneliness and despair. Remember to lean into all that you are feeling, however set a new intention this year that you are enough and you are loved. Give thanks for what you have and where you are at in the present moment.
We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present. ~ Marianne Williamson