Lately the message has been to be true to myself, to honor myself and to remember that I am worthy. My late husband used to have a problem with the word “deserve” and so I caution myself always from using that word, or thinking in that sense. It is true, no one deserves, but honoring yourself is what we must practice in order to do the important work we have come here in this lifetime to share. How often do we pick up the burdens of others to our own detriment? We all know them, the friend that sucks the lifeblood out of you, they ask, ask, and ask for themselves but there often is no reciprocation as to how they might support you. I write this blog as a way to heal not only myself, but hopefully to give others space to find their own voice. Naturally, I have shared this blog with my family and friends hoping they will support me in my endeavors. Many have not. This has hurt me for a long time, but I have stashed it in the back of my mind telling myself it is not right to have any expectations. And, of course, it is not right to have expectations we all know that, especially those of us involved in the journey of growth for the enlightenment of our mind and soul, learning to drop expectations is right up there at the top of the rule list! However, I am often left grappling with these feelings. Today I watched a video about honoring yourself and cutting ties with those that don’t add any value to your life. The video further highlighted how some people won’t add much to your life and that thought provoking discussions don’t occur with everyone. I get this piece, I really do. However, I struggle with people calling on me to listen to them in their struggles, to ask for rides and assistance with things, to have been asked for money in the past, and the list goes on and on. They call on me, but they are no where to be found when I need their support. In the past, I have written about the Native American use of the Burden Basket, and lately I have come to feel as if I am that Burden Basket just hanging on my front door for everyone to dump into. Today a light bulb went off, I am only that Burden Basket if I allow myself to be as such! Ok, that is not a novel concept, but sometimes in the effort to be kind and helpful we all allow ourselves to be run over. I am in the process of releasing a friend and her negative energy from my life right now, it is not easy especially when my ego starts doing the talking and my mind turns into monkey mind going round and round. This person has been toxic to my soul for years; her energy is off the charts in terms of being vampire like. And yet, she is funny, amusing and oftentimes a good time is had when in her company. I have tolerated it all, worried about it all and today I am going to begin to release myself from her negative energy as well as to stop being a Burden Basket for many others as this is an action that I allow to take place. The point of writing this blog is to assist people to find their voices, and today I am a little bit closer to finding mine. Where can you find your voice today? Can you release some relationships that no longer serve you, be they personal and/or business relationships?
You cannot get sick enough to help sick people get better. You cannot get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone. If you’re wanting to be of an advantage to others, be as tapped in, turned in, turned on as you can possibly be. ~ Esther Abraham-Hicks