What does it mean to be more compassionate through our intimacy with disappearance? To me it means that we become braver as we surf the ever-flowing tide of loss and renewal in our lives. We are able to choose whether we will shut our heart off to love and compassion, opting instead to live a fear-based life. Or we can choose to live with openhearted vulnerability. Being vulnerable can be frightening! We inherently know that when we make ourselves vulnerable we also open ourselves up to hurt, loss, and sorrow. When we choose vulnerability we are in a way honoring our soul by allowing for growth to be a bigger, more courageous, and compassionate human being. Without knowing the darkness we can never fully live in our light.
It happens to all of us when we step off into this thing called living. Some people choose to shut down when they encounter sorrows and they simply stop living. It is certainly good to be able to sit with your discomfort and honor it, but why go forward from that place in fear. To sit with fear is not to have lived fully. These words may sound chaste, and that is not my intention as my own life has been filled with trauma. However, on the flip side I have known great love, I have traveled far and wide in the world, experienced new cultures, foods, and peoples. I have stepped off into the abyss even while frightened. To not take the step after some of these losses would have been to deny myself living. Everyone single time any of us open ourselves up, we are at risk to be hurt. It is that simple. But it is through loss that we know ourselves better and are able to assist someone else experiencing loss. We can stand in that place of comfort for another soul; we can be the soul of that place. I hope you never forget to dance, to laugh, to sing, to smile and know the simple joys of life because you have decided to live in fear.
For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love. ~ Carl Sagan