When does the veil of darkness lift from ones heart, especially the heart of one sitting in grief? Does it simply rise because of a day that shouts LOVE, that day being Valentine’s Day? Or does it become even more burdened by the darkness? How easily does the thread we attach to our darkness unravel? More importantly, do we allow it to unravel or clutch onto it, fiercely mending it so that it might never fray? These are important questions to ask not just on a day that has been set-aside for LOVE, but every day. We must get comfortable enough in our humanness in order to see the light, and it is always there right around the corner simply awaiting our discovery.
Grief casts an even bigger shadow over our lives than we already carry, and in the early days it is easy to never want to let go of that precious thread. You may feel as if you allowed for some slack in the thread that all ties to your beloved might be severed. You clutch onto everything hoping against all hope that time might go backward. We were not made to go backward, and grief is not something that you can undo. You also cannot get over grief, no matter what anyone tells you. You may simply go forward, loosening that thread you have woven so tightly against the light. Time allows for cracks to occur, and it is then the light begins to get in. The light nourishes your soul equally as much as the darkness directs you toward love and light. If we bring awareness to the fact that we are each in a lifetime conversation with suffering and equally with bliss, in time we will become open to our strengths and gifts. Loosen the thread just a little, part the veil and open to your belonging in this space of love.
There is no house like the house of belonging ~ David Whyte