What power do we allow words, simple messages, to bring to our life? We may allow for them them to bring us feelings of joy, happiness, sorrow, pain, and a happy heart, oftentimes simultaneously. Having received messages in my lifetime that have been traumatic as in “I am sorry he didn’t make it”, “I am sorry you have a brain tumor”, makes this morning’s message from my son that said “in Roncevalles” all that much more appreciated and joyful, and I immediately felt ‘heart happy’. It is amazing the capacity words have on our heart. They can shut down one’s heart or open up ones heart. Or can they? The words themselves have no power, they are but simple letters or symbols organized in a fashion that forms what we know as a word. They only have the power we give to them. Words only have the power that we allow. Yes, we have responsibility for how we receive words, how we use words, and how we feel as a result of the words we hear.
What does all this mean? It means we have responsibility over how we will react. It doesn’t mean that we should refrain from feeling hurt when someone hurls insults at us, abuses us, or disrespects us in any manner. All of these things do cause damage to our soul, especially traumatic events over which we have zero control. We are left feeling powerless and hurting. We need to be able to acknowledge this kind of pain, not sweep it under the rug. It may require therapy, medication, meditation, lots of self-care and more. Don’t neglect yourself.
However, what we do have control over is how we will react in any of these situations. Yes, how we will speak to the person that delivers the bad news, runs us off the road, and in general abuses us. We may choose to hold onto our power surrounding our reactions. Admittedly, it is much easier to hold onto your power when the words are soft and loving and the actions are joyful then when they are on the other side. However, we can develop these skills with good self-care and practice. As a facilitator of journey therapy, which yes really does help especially in times of stress, I encourage everyone to journal daily for a minimum of 15 minutes. Journal around a subject, an emotion, your feelings, perhaps in the form of an unsent letter to the person that you feel betrayed you in some fashion. When you have written the letter, allowing for all of your emotions to be fully expressed, take the letter and hold a ceremony and burn it, or destroy it in some manner. Set those words free from your soul and feel the cleansing and healing that occurs in this ritual.
Today my message was one of joy, I know my son made the first leg of his journey to walk the Camino de Santiago (his second) with his fiancé on the French route, taking the Napoleon Way over the Pyrenees. It wasn’t the best of weather, nor the worst, it was what it was and they are grateful, as am I. Wishing you a joyful journey wherever you are at today.
We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us. ~ Marcel Proust